Why online dating does not work
If you're someone who needs time to move into anything romantic, you might experience some culture shock when you start online dating.This is a direct result of the aforementioned fast pace intrinsic to online dating.Compared to the relatively snail-like pace of meeting someone IRL, getting to know them, becoming friends, and then maybe going on a date, the way things work online is crazy-fast.Here's a breakdown of how things might typically go in a given three-hour period I spend on a dating app: I learn someone exists, make small talk, ask a few personal get-to-know-you questions, flirt (with varying levels of subtlety), exchange numbers, and ask him out.I've talked and written about online dating so much that I was once called an "authority on online dating" (seriously).The most discussed part of online dating is undoubtedly the insane, funny, or creepy messages people get, but there are a lot more aspects of online dating that deserve some recognition, too.In my four years of online dating (oh wow), I've had plenty of ups and downs.I've met some great people, as well as some serious jerks.
With online dating, everything seems to move at warp speed.
It can be exhausting to read through someone's profile and develop a crush on them, only to discover in their match questions that they think women who've slept with a lot of men are "sluts." Yuck.
OK, Catfish may be a popular TV show, but most people don't think this could ever actually happen to them IRL.
There has been more than one study that blames the spike in STI rates on dating apps. All you need to do is commit yourself to having open, honest conversations with each new sex partner before putting your health or theirs at risk.
If you have an STI and want to date within a more understanding community of peers, there's even a dating service specifically for people who have STIs, because everyone deserves to find love (and having an STI does not make you undateable).