Dating shouldnt feel doubt feel bad
It is for people who don’t want to blame themselves for getting lost in the experience, regardless of the outcome.
Please keep in mind that while I am speaking to women, many men may have had similar experiences of struggling to feel OK with having had sex on the first date. For the most part, when women are dating, embedded in their consciousness is the idea that if they give in to their desires on the first date, they have blown it for the long term.
Thus, having sex on a first date can leave a woman feeling exposed, powerless, even shameful.
While this dynamic may play out over and over in dating life, for many women it stands in direct contrast to the ways they conduct themselves in their careers and in their home lives, where they may feel more confident in the roles they have and how those roles are defined.
REAL men will respect a no, and it's likely that many men who make sexual passes at women they barely know are not only surprised but even disappointed when the answer is yes.
Can women and men stop writing articles that overgeneralize about the other sex and play to the lowest common denominator?
It seems to me that doing something regretful that one already understands to be typically unacceptable and inappropriate, and later justifying the action to oneself citing independence and self-determination, is in the end a very immature and insecure way of acting.
An honest relationship does not begin with sex, nor is it centered around it, and this is something that has been understood for generations. Most guys wont respect a girl if she puts out too much or too easily. Guys want to fool around, but, if a girl is in consideration for a girlfriend, he usually doesn't like a girl who is too easy.
What man wants a woman who acts like a replica of himself, drinking, swearing, smoking, loud, loutish and tattooed up the wazoo?
Men, I'd bet that's a real turnoff for you, whether you admit it or not.