Can a non drinker dating a drinker
No relationship will ever be perfect and every relationship – even the best ones – involve some degree of sacrifices. Seth is a licensed clinical psychologist, author, Psychology Today blogger, and TV guest expert.
He practices in Los Angeles and treats a wide range of issues and disorders and specializes in relationships, parenting, and addiction.
At the end of the day, I find that some of the best romantic relationships are some of the least codependent.
In other words, two people can have a fulfilling, lasting relationship even if one member of the couple chooses to pursue certain activities – say, a night out over cocktails – while the other person does something different.
“We had very civilized, nice dates but, after a while, I started to catch onto the fact that he really did drink—he was just trying to control his drinking and never indulged around me.
When we started going to more parties together, I saw him staring somewhat lasciviously at the alcohol.
“I started dating a guy who told me he didn’t drink,” she recalls.
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When I first decided to get sober, I told my fiancé, “I think I am going to go to AA and quit the booze for good.” His reply: “Awww, I’m gonna lose my drinking buddy? ” As you may expect, that relationship imploded shortly thereafter.
Sure, drinking may be a part of your social life, but are you sure that it’s worth giving up the chance of a trusted relationship because you can’t share a pitcher of margaritas together?
Ultimately, these are decisions that you have to make for yourself. The best thing you can do when you meet someone sober is to talk about the possible issues with your new date; run the issue by a few friends and family members; and listen to your instincts which will tell you whether someone is worth the sacrifice.