Be friends first before dating
I'm used to people butchering the pronunciation and spelling of my name. I blame the Asian-language TV soaps I was weaned on. Which is why I always ask for hot sauce and have an emergency bottle of Tabasco in every purse.
So strike the phrase "Asian persuasion" from your vocabulary.
When a guy says he wants to be friends first until he is sure does it mean that I am being strung along or could it just be that he is being very cautious?
I think being friends first is great since every good relationship should have a friendship foundation but I don't know how I would feel about building this friendship with him and then he finds someone else he wants to be "more than friends" with instead of me. A lot of people jump into relationships way too quickly then have those complications to deal with.
Having been taught to use chopsticks before I learned to speak, I consider them to be the best utensils.
I don't understand why anyone would eat Flaming Hot Cheetos without chopsticks (keeps the Cheetos dust from getting on the fingers). Don't assume I know how to speak fill-in-the-blank-Asian language. Doesn't matter who's with me, when I'm eating out, I'm going to reach for the check first. With parents and aunts and uncles getting into physical altercations over who gets to pay for dinner.
I yawned my way through weeknights with a tutor or at a prep program, and I spent my Saturdays at Korean school hating life while learning how to be a better Korean. "You're not married to this so-called boyfriend of yours yet — what's the big deal?
Pro-tip: Refill everyone else's cup before your own, going from oldest to youngest. Prepare for a lifetime of finding knots of long black hairs in the shower drain, in the vacuum cleaner, on the carpet, everywhere, all the time.
It could just be that he doesn't want to hurt you by taking advantage of your feelings towards him, until he is fully ready to let himself feel that way about you.
It sounds to me like you aren't very special to him.
When a guy meets a girl he "likes" he will do anything to be with her.
He and that other girl jumped into a relationship right away and two months into it, he realized that he was not really that into her anymore and eventually broke up with her.
He then felt very guilty about it and did not want to hurt her. He said he wants to have sex with me but he knows that sex can complicate things.